My husband, Craig, and I have known each other for about 25 years; I used to house-sit, and occasionally babysit (even though his kids are about my age), when I was younger and growing up down the street.
He was married though, and of course, being 18 years my senior, a relationship at that time wasn’t feasible.
Neither of us knew the other was “interested” until 2008, when someone in my “family” passed away, and he came to the viewing and funeral to pay respects.
I was just getting out of a horrible marriage, and he had long since divorced the mother of his children, and, well, as they say, it’s all history from there.
To be honest, I think we both thought it would just be a “fun fling” for a couple months, when instead we ended up falling in love.
Deep, passionate, mad love; the kind of stuff fairy tales are made of (and horror movies).
Don’t get me wrong – we’ve had some insanely difficult times, where “giving up” and moving on would have made life easier for both of us…but, we just can’t give each other up.
I mentioned, if you follow my blogs, we finally got married, May 03, 2015 in a beach ceremony, Ocean Beach, California.
He is officially my longest relationship, and aside from his first wife (the mother of his kids, who he stayed with for his kid’s sake), I’m his. We both have a horrible track record with marriage and were a bit hesitant to ‘tie the knot’ again, but we figured third time’s a charm. Besides, I was done with a 6.5 year engagement.
Obviously, our celebration was marking the anniversary of when we first got together. To me, it was a big deal and he went out of his way to make not only the evening, but the weekend, special for me.
It was more than just a nice dinner out, though. Afterwards, we went to our “special spot”, out in the desert near our house, where we’d spent a first date listening to music, talking and polishing off a 1.75 of Southern Comfort. We call it being “out with the cows”, because it’s a beautiful spot, overlooking the city, but it’s in ranch area so free-ranging cows are everywhere! Plus, we enjoy ghost hunting , and this area is rich in spooky activities.
Of course, another bottle of wine, some (ahem) “adult activities” ensued, and it was a beautiful night, enjoying mutual back massages, wine, cheese and crackers, music and each other’s company.
I think our Sunday afternoon was even more fun! We spent the afternoon wine tasting at a couple local places and window shopping at Cost Plus, one of my favorite places to browse.
I just adore walking around that store, looking at all the unique and beautiful things they stock. Especially this time of year, when Halloween goodies are on the shelves.
The sommelier is a nice kid, who recognizes us every time we come in for a wine tasting. A couple weeks ago, we sampled a Rosè wine, that while we weren’t crazy about it, had the coolest bottle – engraved/imprinted with a rose on the bottom and a gorgeous glass cork like neither of us had seen before. The young man, whose name I cannot remember for the life of me, said he’d save us a cork for the next time we came in. Craig and I both thanked him but figured he’d forget or was just humouring us. Sure enough, the moment he saw us, said he had it and would get it for us as soon as we were done tasting.
After spending most of the day wine tasting and window shopping, we came home and enjoyed the rest of the afternoon playing with our crazy mutt, snacking on some Poppedify popcorn, sharing a bottle of red wine and watching a Monsoon storm roll in.
Why have I decided to blog about all this?
Its not about the things, people. Its about the memories and the people who help you make them. I will remember this anniversary for years to come, simply because I had such an amazing couple of days, spending time with the person I love most in this world.
Quit worrying about whether or not your purse is Prada or your dinner come a from a five star restaurant. Put down your phone and simply enjoy the moment (I know…I’ve posted a lot of pictures for someone who put down her phone to enjoy the moment, but that’s the only way to use your phone when you’re enjoying an experience or a companion). Fall in love (again), remember why you fell in the first place (and I don’t mean how you may have broken an ankle!). Its glorious, unexpected moments like these that make me appreciate life, and more than that, Craig. He is the sun to my moon, and my life wouldn’t ‘ve complete without him.
Its not ever going to be easy, all the time. But, anything worth it, is worth fighting for and any person worth being with, is worth fighting with.
Tomorrow’s never promised; hell, the next few hours are never promised. Make sure you take the time to tell the people you care about, you love them.
And, make sure you make those memories.